Good Advice…Where Does It All Go?


So how many of us out there have been in some situation, with one foot poised over a sheer drop to stupidity, or in some situation, serious sort, with no idea what to do? How many of us in that instant, or what seems to be a lifetime, have gotten advice from those close to us, and sometimes from total strangers due to a certain tendency to talk to oneself.

Let’s be honest, we get bucket loads of advice! Human beings love dishing out advice and we ourselves have most probably done the same in the past, are doing it in the present and will be doing it in the near future!  If we apply the principle of karma we are really just getting what we deserve!

In the midst of all this advice, which happens to be a lot, there are some gems of ‘good advice’. We’ll listen to said, ‘good advice’ and we’ll nod our heads; we’ll know in our heads and hearts that the person is right; that the advice been given is what should be adhered to and we’ll nod our heads, with serious faces and say, “you’re right”. Then we’ll thank the person, get up, leave and then comes the pivotal point – we forget the advice! It just vanishes from our minds and we fall into stupidity (my case now). The annoying part of this is that after the fall, when you’ve crashed and burned, you remember the good advice!

So where does the ‘good advice’ go between the time you hear it to the time you’ve crashed and burnt? Vacation? Does it get transferred to another dimension via a mental link that exists between us and the other side? Or do we have aliens programming our memory to only remember the ‘good advice’ after we have fallen? (Sorry for all the sci-fi references, am been influenced by a forum I’m reading)

The truth is, I have had a lot of brilliant advice in my life, most of which I have failed to follow and I have ended up in hot water due to that shortcoming! Having said that, I am a great believer in the saying, ‘experience is the best teacher’. I have learnt some invaluable lessons through my experiences. When it really comes down to it, you cannot live life through someone else’s experiences. It’s your life and you need to find your own way and that means making some mistakes, it means falling off the cliff; it means finding out for yourself how to navigate this complex thing called life. It also means knowing when to listen! Sometimes as much as experience may have taught you an invaluable lesson, listening to the advice offered may have saved you a whole lot of heartache and pain. Cost-benefit analysis (accountant in me poking her head out), was the heartache and pain, which may touch others, worth the lesson, the experience gained?

The choice at the end of the day is in your hands! You have to decide to either learn the hard way or take the advice and learn the easy way. I, for one, am a curious person and want to know the outcomes for myself, rather than take it from someone else. So I choose the hard way. What do you choose??


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