The Fear of Being Judged

Most of us have a fear of being judged in some way. Maybe it’s for our backgrounds, maybe it’s for our short-comings, maybe it’s for mistakes in the past, maybe it’s for things like depression that we can’t fully control. Whatever the reason for our fear, it is very real. It can also be said to be justified, because people do judge. Me, myself am guilty of judging. Sometimes we don’t think too much about our judging and it can seem harmless but it’s not. The person we choose to put under our microscopes and find faults with really would not appreciate the judgement we pass on them!

I think most judgments passed on others, by ourselves, are there due to a lack of understanding. Most of us know our stories, why we are the way we are, what we’ve been through and how those events have moulded us.  No other human being can completely understand those things, unless they have been through the same things with you. Even then, they may have come out of it with different lessons than you. After all, we are unique in our own ways and hence unique in how we view things and deal with them. In addition, if you share your story with someone can he/she fully relate? I don’t think so. Our experiences are exactly that, ours! We cannot expect others to fully understand their significance in our lives. Then again, do we really share with anyone completely? Don’t we hold back because we do not want to feel judged?

There are two types of people who judge in my opinion: the ones who seem to have nothing better to do than judge and they do it in a mean and hurtful way, fully aware of how it affects you and then there are the majority of us who judge unwittingly without much thought and not really meaning any harm. One is worse than the other, but both are bad.

There is no one in this, whole world I’m sure who hasn’t judged another human being at one time or another. Sometimes we judge them for the same mistakes and short-comings that are in ourselves. Like King David who was so quick to pass judgement on the man in Nathan’s story, even though Nathan was in essence describing David’s sin regarding Bathsheba (2 Samuel 12:1-6).

The only one who never judged anyone was Jesus, and He met some pretty, interesting characters that everyone else was having a field day judging. Matthew the tax collector, Mary Magdalene the prostitute, the crippled man who was that way since he was young, one of His disciples asked, “What was this man’s sin for being crippled?” (paraphrased). Now I consider that judgement. So, I guess what I’m trying to say is this; if Jesus, perfect, sinless Jesus, Son of God, who had every right to judge us, sinful people did not do so, what right do we have to judge others when we are as flawed and human as them? The simple answer: NONE.

I’m not asking us to be perfect, that’s not possible. What I’m asking is that, before we pass judgement, can we take a moment and think about it? Can we ask ourselves, “What right do I have to do so?” Can we try to understand their stories and get the full picture before we rush to judge. And even after that if we feel the right or need to judge, then may I ask, what do you get from judging another human being? What purpose does it serve? Answer me that and I will say maybe, just maybe you may have a right to judge others.

How can you think of saying, ‘Friend, let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” – Luke 6:42

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